I am not going into the boring old topic of conflict management here. umm, there has been enough said about it.
Actually, this came up in some of my deep discussions with my daughter about one of her research topics in school on ‘how does religion affect the laws?’. So, we have been debating and discussion about Iran, Mohajirs of Pakistan, the conflicts in 7th and 8th century , the multi-religion families and more.
We did discuss how religion itself has caused almost 70% wars and suffering in the world. How religious suppression goes in waves: From the early centuries’ Catholic dominance, to the persecution of Jews, the suppressions of women’s right in post revolution Iran, under ISIS rule and even the suppression and ‘atrocities’ in countries following Buddhism.
But how did Religion become a topic/power even greater than the right to live, right to have proper food, right to die in dignity?
So, we dig deeper and what we discussed , the problem of all religions (and so called religious ‘Gurus’) is not the religion itself, but the desire to expand , the “Greed” to expand, to be the most followed religion in the world.
Is this Greed limited only to religions? Well if you look around you, this “Greed” is everywhere, in personal, professional world, everywhere!
In Politics, the greed to have ultimate power and rule the millions and billions..
In business, to earn more and more (Yes , even in my training business)..
In Offices, to have that influences on maximum number of subordinates..
At Home, the greed to always get your way and control (the typical saas-bahu conflict)..
And when , this greed is not fulfilled, we enter into a conflict zone and obviously, we tend to blame others for start of that conflict
But are human beings born greedy, are human beings born with a religion, are human being born with expansionist mindset. NO!
A child is not born with a rudraksh, or a skull cap or a cross.
It is the parents who force their religion upon their kids. Even at the tender age of 1-2 years, when they don’t even know how to spell their name, kids are told to bow down, follow the rituals, and not go against one’s religion. But was it your religion or your parents’ religion you are following?
It is the parents’ greed to follow the ‘family’ traditions, family religion which make them grow more biased and confused as they grow..
But, coming back to the origins of conflict, where does this Greed come from?
Can it really be eliminated or suppressed? Let’s try to find an answer.
Let’s actually look at the Neanderthal times, when we were still gatherer-hunters 2,00,00 years back. The number of people on the planet was too far less and the resources to feed were in plenty. SO, there were pretty much no conflicts..
But then, we started to expand our clans, our families. and that needed more resources, more food, more hands, more hands who would hunt and gather for the ever expanding clans.
and there in started the origin of conflicts. Because now we had continuously forage into others’ ‘territories’ to get more food , so if they would try to defend, we would forcible try to take over land and food sources and force them to follow our rituals and ways of food and more.
As humans evolved some of these things got hard-wired into our genes. To protect what we call ours, to expand wherever and howsoever we can and to look down upon those, we conquered.
Flash forward to future, and lets go to the ever burning Middle-East part of the world.
If the powers to be would not have the expansionist , religious mind-set, Would the Gulf-war take place? NO!
Would Yemen be in the condition it is now? NO!
Would the USA have more bases outside of mainland US? , NO!
You are thinking this is a political statement I am making.
BUT think about the conflicts in your office… When a colleague is given more attention and privileges,when the boss never listens to the voice of reason, when people are fired even though they would have served the company dutifully for 25 years
And, it’s not also professional.
Think about your conflicts with your friends, your family members, your neighbours. Are they really ideological or one party trying to prove their supremacy and trying to say others are wrong. Ah! the greed to be seen as superior.
and let me make it more personal, when you want your partner to love and like you the way you want them to , isn’t that greed. When you want your partner to be 24×7 with you, isn’t that greed!
Now, almost all religious gurus can give you a 5 day gyaan on how to suppress greed, but I would rather leave you with a question..
Before you preach others about anything..
Have you been able to suppress your own greeds?